Sometimes, the only thing standing in the way of your personal happiness, your goals, and your emotional development is you. To get it together and make sure that you’re not standing in your own way, here are some habits you may want to consider breaking in order to be the best you that you can be.
Stop Constantly Dwelling on Your Failures
One of the biggest stumbling blocks to personal growth is constantly dwelling on your mistakes. It’s our innate impulse to fixate on failures that ultimately hampers us from achieving our goals and keeps us from moving forward. There’s nothing more unproductive than projecting all of your energy onto something that you don’t have the power to change. In pursuit of your goals, setbacks are, of course, unavoidable. But your setbacks aren’t what define you. What does define you, however, is your response to them. You can’t control what’s already happened, but you can control what happens next and how to proceed with greater swiftness and clarity than if you chose to focus on your failure.
Stop Second Guessing Yourself
It bears repeating: you aren’t defined by your mistakes! So, stop second guessing yourself and start banishing self-doubt. When you don’t put faith in your instincts, or are constantly weighing your options to the point of indecision, you’re choosing to remain stagnant out of fear of failure. Indecision is the agent of inaction, and inaction severely hinders success.
Start Letting Go of Grudges
Holding onto grudges does nothing but sap you of your (positive) energy. Forgiveness, even in the absence of an apology, is much more freeing than holding onto negativity. Don’t let anyone who doesn’t deserve it rent space in your mind – especially when there are other, more pressing things, situations, or even people who are far worthier of it.
Stop Waiting for Change
They say that “change is just around the corner,” but that doesn’t mean you should wait for it. Many of us make the mistake of waiting for our next big break, or even for our luck to change when we’re down on it. In reality, though, we’re the ones who make our own luck. Opportunity doesn’t knock when you’ve just been waiting by the door, and in order for change to occur, you must be the one to walk around the corner in pursuit of it.