16 Things You Need to Stop Doing to Be Your Happiest, Most Successful Self

You may be drowning in tons of work at the office or having a hard time with family and friends in your life, and it just may be that all you can think about lately is how stressed you are feeling. Unfortunately, it’s a pretty well-known fact that the more stress you have in your body, the more unhappy you really are. And when you’re unhappy with where you life is at, this can affect other aspects of your life such as your success and your relationships with the people closest to you. Instead of continuing down this path and struggling to deal with certain factors in your life, try eliminating them altogether with these simple tricks.

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Don’t rely on other people. People struggle with their happiness when they feel that they aren’t getting what they want from the people that they surround themselves with. But the key to living a more content life is focusing on making yourself happy, not hoping that others will do it for you. Your life is always the way it is because you make it that way, so own it and strive to make it as good as can be.

Don’t make excuses. Just like relying on others, don’t blame other people or certain circumstances for the way your life plays out. Take responsibility for where your life is currently, and don’t make excuses for shortcomings or other parts of your life that you’re not totally thrilled with. It’s time to start holding yourself accountable for your actions, and making choices that take your life where you want it to go.

Don’t stick around in negative environments. While nothing or nobody should hold all the blame for where you are in life, that doesn’t mean that a little negativity can definitely hold you back and act as an extra, and totally unnecessary challenge. The first step to making positive choices in your life is to eliminate the negative aspects that are taking up too much room. Limit the time you spend around negative people or environments that make you feel uncomfortable or less than what you truly could be.

Don’t hide from failure. Life happens. You are going to fail at some point. It happens to everyone. There is no reason you should hide from it. When you fail, you learn. That way, you can improve later on down the road.

Don’t ignore the dark times. Everyone deals with periods of darkness and happiness throughout life; it’s like a cycle. And, like your mistakes, some of the darker times that you experience in life can teach you some pretty major lessons, so learn to embrace the bad with the good.

Don’t beat yourself up. Obviously, you can’t really beat yourself up physically, so why do it emotionally? In order to be happier and more successful, you need to know how to deal with your emotions and how you feel about certain situations that you have no control over.

Don’t be ungrateful. A great way to guarantee yourself more happiness is to learn how to be grateful for what you have. On top of making you happier, it also can lead to being more successful. If you are truly grateful for the small things in life, you will have an easier time accomplishing your dreams.

Don’t strive to always be perfect. The one reason people work as hard as they do to be perfect is because they want approval from the people around them, which in turn makes them feel better about themselves. However, being a perfectionist means not loving yourself for who you really are, so learning to deal with the person that you are and not the person you want to be will help you live a happier life.

Don’t live an unhealthy lifestyle. Everything starts with being the healthiest self you can possibly be. You should first make sure you have a clean bill of health, and then focus on maintaining a healthy diet and continuing with physical activity to get rid of the stress of each day.

Don’t fight for your happiness. Most people try way too hard to chase happiness, which only leads them to be more miserable with the way that their life is. Instead, be realistic about where you are and about how you can slowly make small changes that take you in the direction you want to go in. That way, you will slowly but surely feel happier with where your life is headed.

Don’t let go of great opportunities. All too often, we wish that more opportunities were available to us, yet we fail to see or accept those opportunities when they do finally present themselves. Never let fear or doubt keep you from making positive – albeit possibly scary – changes to your life, especially when those changes are likely to help you realize a dream of yours or to help you further yourself.

Don’t try to fix others if they don’t want to be fixed. Everyone feels the need to fix the people they love if they are going through a hard time. But when helping others proves to be more taxing on you than it is beneficial to them, it might be time to reassess your determination to help. It is always important to act as a support system for those you love, but you always have to remember that that includes giving yourself the support and attention you need.

Don’t worry about what others think. Don’t look around at your peers and wonder what they are doing or what they are thinking about you. Stop comparing their success and their happiness to yours. You are in charge of your life and if you are doing your best, then you should be happy with that.

Don’t look for the easy way out. When you’re trying to achieve success, it could be tempting to look for shortcuts that will speed up the journey to reaching your goals. But take our word for it: no success worth having is going to come easy, and at the end of the day, the benefits you reap will only be as valuable as the time and effort that you put into reaching them.

Don’t hold onto the past. It’s no secret that your past can stand in the way of building your best future from time to time, but the key to making sure that you’re able to move forward as your best self is to let go of anything from your past that might be weighing you down. Don’t negative experiences and lingering grudges from your past stop you from reaching your dreams and being successful. It’s just a chapter in the book of your life, not the whole story.

Don’t give up. Do you really want to be known around your office or in your home as a quitter? The most successful people never give up on what they are working towards. They throw themselves completely into a project and never let anything get in the way of their end result. Don’t be the person that throws in the towel at your potential happiness and success.

 

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